You may be pretty much a hybrid, with equal amounts of both.
I’m betting that you’ve got some Alpha no matter who you are.
As I’ve studied and worked with women, I’ve discovered that our Beta sisters sometimes feel diminished or threatened by the Alpha prototype—but there is really no cause for this.
I am not talking about “good,” “bad,” or “better” people; I am saying that all Alphas and Betas—in other words, all of us—are on a personality continuum, and most of us are a mix, with greater or lesser degrees of both.
We’ve all seen Dads pushing strollers down the street as often as we see Moms.
Her towering four-inch stilettos march off to the office, the store, the judge’s chambers, and her lacquered-red soles send a “follow me” signal, straight to the bedroom. She’s the chic, assertive saleswoman who convinces you to buy an outfit you aren’t sure you actually need.
If she’s young and feeling her way as an Alpha female, she may proudly sign her texts “HBIC” (head b*tch in charge—an acronym I heard recently from a 17-year-old client of mine headed to the Ivy League who could be the poster child for the new generation).
A new ad campaign for shaving cream suggests men “man up,” a playful poke both at traditional notions of manhood and at today’s “softer” guy.
Today’s Beta guy is transformed and more complicated than the sensitive guy from the 80s and 90s. Many Alpha women have a sexual Achilles heel: Openly sexual as they are, they still expect the man to take the lead in bed, which gets in the way of their falling for the tender lover, the Beta male.