Dating your first love twice
''The story was inspired by a friend's struggle to find a partner and although it's a romantic comedy, I hope it raises some questions about how we categorise and idealise people and about the search for connection." The Rosie Project tells the story of a socially challenged genetics professor, Don Tillman, who decides to look for a wife, drawing up a "scientifically valid" questionnaire to assist his quest for the perfect woman.Rosie Jarman checks none of the boxes on Don's questionnaire.He and his girlfriend were on a break at the time, and my boyfriend was living in another country. But I remember our friends at the wedding looking at us and thinking…That night he told me he loved me and that he was going to marry me. Before he passed away he was married 5 times, to 4 different women. Divorced her when I was 6 then remarried her shortly after. You know that you are not right for each other and you’re wasting your time. What we had was beautiful and we didn’t want it to change.I wondered why I hadn’t met him before since we seemed to be in the same friend circle. He brought me a bouquet of sunflowers and took me to one of the best restaurants in town. The next day I moved back into my mom’s place for the Summer until I figured out my next move. They divorced again when I was 10.]My dad knew from personal experience that it wasn’t about the wedding, it’s about the marriage. Some people decide to get married after having been through all of these things while dating. Why not get married when we are in the honeymoon phase of our relationship?
We were both in unhealthy, on & off, long term [and long distance in my case] relationships. We both knew the couple getting married so it wasn’t awkward. When I was around him I didn’t think about anyone else, I didn’t want to look at my phone, and I didn’t think about how the life I had known for the last four years was falling apart right under me. I was constantly being told how great of a guy he was and how much he was admired by people that I knew and trusted.“Elena, if you elope…I will cut you a fat check.” My dad was a wonderful man, but he had terrible luck with women. You decide to stay together because you are inconvenienced by the thought of starting over with someone new.She's a drinker, a smoker, vegetarian, late-arriver...'The Wife Project' teaches Don some unexpected things.The statistics emerged in a study commissioned to mark the paperback release of the international bestseller The Rosie Project - a tale of one man's quest to find his perfect wife - on Thursday, January 2nd.Author Graeme Simsion said: "It's a reminder that the path to finding a life partner can be a long and rocky one - and indeed is for most of us.