Divorced and dating blog
We tend to assume our children “know” we love them, but, really, how are they supposed to know that if we don’t tell them?My children are adults, married with children, and I still tell them.Parents might attempt to make up for difficult life changes by offering their child fancy toys, taking them on expensive outings, letting them skip school or stay up late, and overlooking rudeness or sibling aggression.This is the wrong approach, though, as it is still likely to send the message that the parent does not care.
Connecting with our loved ones is one of the joys of life, after all. Don’t “compensate” for this rough time by spoiling your child.
I have a memory of walking down the street with my mother, around the age of five, thinking about a conversation I’d had with some other children in the schoolyard a few days earlier.
One of them had asked, “Who do you like more, your mom or your dad?
Parents may still smart from the sting of rejection divorce inevitably is; they may keep rehashing difficult moments and wondering if they could still rewrite the script; their minds may be preoccupied with making ends meet or other concerns.
Many parents are focused so intently on court cases for custody that, ironically, they spend more time and thought on the case than on the child.